Are You Nice Or Kind?
Bible Reference: The Beatitudes
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22NIV
These virtues listed in Galatians 5 are essentially the foundation for freedom in Christ. Kindness appears in the list of Beatitudes, but how is it any different than being nice, and how does that relate to leadership?
Are you agreeable and pleasant with others? If you answered yes, than you are a nice person. This is not a bad thing…right?
BUT…If you are too nice, it can become a problem, especially if you are a leader. One temptation of a leader is to aspire to be “liked”. It can be dangerous.
Kate Nasser writes about this in her blog…”Needing to be liked can steer you to many poor leadership behaviors. It can drive you to sacrifice results for the virtual hug. This can earn you the label of too nice to lead”.
Are you considerate and have compassion for others? Kindness has some roots in compassion, which is closely related to another beatitude…love. Love may appear on the surface as being soft, but it is actually the opposite.
Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud…Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 1 Corinthians
Love rejoices with the truth, but the truth is not always easy. Honesty is also one of the keys to being kind. In leadership that puts you at risk to not be “liked”. Someone who is kind brings the truth to the surface, but often a nice person will let it sink to the bottom…to hide it.
Leadership often calls us to be kind…but not always nice.
Kate Nasser, Smart SenseAbilities Blog, Are you too nice to lead.